It’s Day 33 and today I’m dealing with a subject that has affected us all at some time, just to different extents. I’m looking at discouragement and how it has the capacity to demobilize us particularly when we’re very near our point of breakthrough or victory.
When we’re discouraged we’re unable to dream, create or see possibilities. Discouragement has a way of blocking your vision so that you cannot see past the negative feelings and emotions you’re experiencing at that time. When discouragement takes a grip on its victims it can almost become personified. This is when it becomes relentless in trying to convince you that the negative emotions you’re feeling are permanent and pervasive.
As the year closes some people begin reviewing all of the things they haven’t accomplished at the beginning of the year. Or they feel overwhelmed because they cannot see the wood through the trees into what the New Year holds for them. This can cause a severe bout of discouragement and take some people into an even deeper depression.
So what are some of the things you can do to avoid this slippery slope of discouragement.
1. Be thankful for what you have. Thankfulness and gratitude is an antidote for complaining and negative self chatter.
2. Do not measure yourself against anyone else’s success. Don’t look at what anybody else has and how well you think they have done. Make your own measure of success and work toward being the best at being you!
3. Treasure hunt the things that you have done well so far. Unless you’ve just buried your head in the sand and hibernated for an entire year; you’ll be amazed at how much you have achieved once you start to list them before you.
4. Don’t blame anyone else for where you are at this point. Realise that there’s incredible power within you and nobody can rob you of life unless you allow them to. Fess up that the life choices you made got you here. Blaming will only zap energy that’s needed to get you out of the discouragement and into a place of vision and determination.
5. There’s no getting out of this one. You have to plan and work it. This simply means that if you feel lousy about your lack of achievement this year, it’s no use going into another year without making some changes. Ask yourself what are the things you didn’t get done? Why didn’t you get them done? What do you need to put in place to get them done this time around?
6. I’ve mentioned in many previous posts that the company you keep has a tremendous affect on your mentality and behaviour. This is one that I cannot repeat enough. Jim Rohn coined it perfectly when he said, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most of your time with.” Misery loves company, so the negative people around you will quite happily carry your big bag of distress for you!
7. Don’t try to get out of your discouragement by attempting to work on every single one of your improvement areas. Multi tasking is way overrated! It’s much better to work on one area, perfect that and get some victories in it, rather than trying to achieve multiple things at once and not mastering any of them. So choose the main thing, the one thing!
7. Lastly, Whatever you do DON’T GIVE UP! There’s a big possibility that you are very near the fulfilment of your goals and that’s where discouragement can be at it’s most intense. Put it this way; If you’re not even in the race, there’s no way you can get to the finish line.
If you’re suffering from discouragement or have overcome it. I’d like to hear from you, so drop me a line and let’s talk about it. Or maybe you have some expert advice that can help someone else, I’d like to hear from you also.
See you tomorrow.