Today I’d like to paint a picture for you of ‘The Perfect Life’. A life where there is no pain, rejection, conflict, disappointment, failure, misunderstanding, cruelty, malice, self-judgement… I could go on but I think you’d shut the post down and go off and do something more worthwhile if I did!
Why? Because both you and I know that a life void of what I’ve described above is absolutely impossible here on earth. Well, actually it might be possible, if we could just get rid of all of those peculiar and complicated humans. Sound absurd? But, that’s what it would take to have a world free of challenges, issues and setbacks.
Imagine trying to abort the process of producing a diamond. The only way that diamond can be transformed into such a valuable substance is through the process of intense heat and pressure. Equally the metamorphosis of a caterpillar into a butterfly, acts as one of the greatest metaphors of change, improvement and transition. In the same way nature needs agitation to grow, the human life does also.
The Myth – The amazing thing is, even though we are all aware that life throws us some really challenging turns at times, we still have a preconceived notion that everything we experience is supposed to be a hunky dory duck walk. There’s almost a silent voice in our subconscious that makes us believe that life owes us something and that failure, loss and pain are our greatest enemies. Let’s face it, we’re afraid to even contemplate that life is hard.
The Reality – Well, the exciting news is that they are not. In fact they are our greatest assets for growth. Think about your hardest life moment, greatest loss, biggest disappointment or seemingly most embarrassing failure. While you’re going through it, the road to recovery seems long and hard. But a few years down the road there’s an anthem that rings, ‘I’m so glad that happened to me. It’s made me so much stronger’.
The Benefits – A life without any kind of adversity would leave us unaware, emotionally deficient and inexperienced. But there’s another factor which is more important than the adversity itself. It’s what we learn from the adversity that causes the growth. It’s who we become during the hardship that reaps the fruit of perseverance, courage, patience and self discipline. If we can treasure hunt the benefits, we’ll find opportunities that strengthen us internally, build our character and help us view life situations so much differently in the future.
So the next time you experience adversity and the universal law says there will be a next time! I hope you’ll remember some of the things I’ve mentioned above and also remember that… ‘It’s a Hard Life But Someone Has to Live It’ and that someone just happens to be you.
Drop me a line and let me hear your thoughts on how your feel about or handle the difficult moments in your life. If you want to ask a question about working through adversity, that’s fine too. Your comments and questions are such a great way to help others that may visit this blog.